It's no secret that dating in New York City can be brutal. It seems everyone has a dating horror story or two that reminds us to delete the apps once again. However, hiding from the scary feelings it evokes gets us nowhere. Whether you choose to use apps or meet people in person is totally up to you! The point is that you do something! So how do we create the love life of our dreams given how hostile the dating scene in NYC can truly feel?

We all have goals, yet few of us actually succeed at achieving them. Why is it so easy to have a goal, but so difficult to accomplish one? Perhaps the issue lies not in the goal itself, or even our own willpower. Perhaps the issue is in how we approach the goal. Many of us tend to be harsher on ourselves than we realize. We give ourselves tight deadlines and expect transformation fast. Yet, this outlook and approach could be the very thing inciting perceived failure and then total abandonment of a goal.

Finding the right therapist can seem tedious at best and frustratingly discouraging at worst. The process isn't exactly taught or common knowledge. From navigating insurance woes, and availability matches, looking for a therapist with a specific niche or specialty or simply one that is right in your neighborhood, finding a good therapist can be hard. From a therapist who has experienced this process a time or two myself, here are my top tips to making the process as seamless as possible.